How To Breastfeed Distracted Baby – Tips And Tricks

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How to breastfeed distracted baby? I remember searching this query when my son was around 4 month old. He had become very aware of his surroundings and breastfeeding sessions were becoming challenging. While it is a good sign that your baby is becoming more aware of surroundings and interested in absorbing everything they can, it does make the breastfeeding mother’s life a little difficult.

I have already written about the best tips to help you succeed at breastfeeding and help you achieve your breasfeeding goals. But distracted baby at the breast is one such hiccup on the way that can demotivate you from continuing with breastfeeding. These are phases in your child’s development that are challenging to say the least.

You think the session is over so you stop, then baby cries in 5 minutes for more. This cycle keeps repeating. Or if you decide to give them time at the breast, baby keeps unlatching to look around not focussing on the feeding session. Making every session very long drawn.

Distractions happen even at later stages like 8-9 months of baby’s age and you may mistake it for baby self weaning. But this is not the case. In fact in my own case my son was very aware of his envirnoment from very early on and I could never have successful sessions out and about or in noisy envirnoments. He would want to keep looking at everything around him.

So how do you tackle this type of feeding behaviour. As a mother you begin to worry if they are even getting enough milk in to provide proper nutrition. The following steps helped me immensely with my son and getting him to focus on the feeding session at hand and not get distracted. I hope these work for you and your distractible baby.
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Tips to breastfeed distracted baby

  1. To breastfeed distracted baby choose a quiet spot of the house. Draw the curtains and make the room dark. This helps baby focus on breastfeeding. Turn away from any light source like bulbs, lamps in such a way that baby can’t see them.
  2. Try breastfeeding at times like early mornings or closer to times when baby is drowsy. This is called dream feeding. Early mornings are great times to have longer feeding sessions.
  3. When travelling outside with baby during this phase try and find a quieter spot (being outside stimulates baby and may affect your feeding session). I looked for feeding rooms in malls or breastfed in our car before taking him outside. Basically find any spot that is quiet.
  4. If baby is unlatching from the breast many times during one session wear a beaded teething necklace or scarf around your neck. This keeps them engaged in the session, while they fiddle with your accessory.
  5. Use a nursing cover. When all else fails, use a cover as a way to cut out all distractions.
  6. Feeding baby in a lying down position side by side is also a great way to get them to focus on feeding.
  7. Wait until baby is hungry. This was a trick that worked for me. During phases of distractible feeding wait it out until baby is really hungry. Chances are when they are really hungry they will focus on feeding first rather than looking around.

Most of all be patient. Like everything else in motherhood, distracted baby at the breast is also a phase and teaches us more patience and creativity in parenting.

Do let me know which tricks worked for you during this phase of breastfeeding distracted baby?

12 Frequently Asked Questions By New Parents In India

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New parents face many challenges from the moment the baby arrives. Indian parents in particular, face a peculiar situation whether to follow traditional or modern science based baby caring techniques. This can leave them confused as to which practices to follow and which can be best avoided.

At Easy Mommy Life I’m focussed on bringing unbiased, evidence-based information to new parents. I am therefore trying to bring experts who can provide mothers with information which they seek. Today I bring one such expert Dr. Arva M. Bhavnagarwala. Dr. Arva is a pediatrician and has agreed to do this interview with me. Our discussion revolves around queries every new mother has when she first brings her baby home from the hospital. Initial days of an infant’s life are the most crucial. A calm and self assured mother can make a huge impact in this period.

Let’s get started with the interview.

Question: Massage is great for bonding with babies, are the traditional malishwaali’s needed? Should parents be encouraged to massage baby on their own instead?

Answer: It depends on how comfortable you are with massaging and then bathing the baby. Usually younger babies upto 3 months of age do not hold their necks properly. So it can be difficult bathing them. Traditional maalishwalis are trained to do massage and bathe the newborn. So, until the parents get a hang of it, traditional malishwaali’s may be needed. For the massage, use any oil of your choice. No other substance like besan or anything else (dhoop) should be used. The massage should be with firm yet gentle strokes to relax baby.

Question: Some Indian families practice applying kajal to baby’s eyes. Can you explain to our readers why parents should refrain from applying kajal to baby’s eyes?

Answer: The kajal available in the market contain different types of chemicals, which can be harmful for the eyes. So, if you want to put kajal on the baby’s body for whatever reason, you can apply it anywhere you want except the eyes!

Question: What constitutes “sleeping through the night”? What can be done to promote good sleep in infants?

Answer: Sleeping through the night means sleeping at a stretch for 6-8 hours. This is difficult to achieve in babies younger than six months as they are still breastfeeding and get startled easily. In infants above six months, you can establish a routine for their sleeping depending on the situation at your home. Keeping a fixed time, a pre-sleep ritual like massaging or bathing can help. Keeping the room dim and quiet is also important. Make sure they do not sleep hungry. At the same time remember, each baby is different. Some may sleep through the night easily, some may not. Patience is the key. Do not give up!

Question: What should new parents look for when choosing baby care products?

Answer: They should be hypoallergenic, fragrance free or a mild fragrance, organic if possible and pH of 4.5 to 5. Before using any new product liberally, do a patch test. That is, apply a little product on a small patch of skin and observe for any adverse reaction for 24 to 48 hours. This is especially useful if there’s a family history of allergies.

Question: What is colic and how to prevent it?

Answer: Colic is continuous bouts of crying at a predictable time and usually occurs in babies upto 6-8 months of age. What exactly causes colic is not known. There is no specific way to prevent colic as such. Some babies do not get it at all, while some are extremely colicky. In breastfeeding mothers, if they make some changes in their diet, it can reduce the episodes to some extent. Like avoiding gas causing foods, and caffeine.

Question: Many new parents are confused about vaccinations. With controversy created by media and a divide in parenting groups on pro-vaccine and anti-vaccine, what do you have to say to Indian parents about vaccinations?

Answer: The vaccinations that are compulsory and recommended by the Government of India have to be given. There’s no doubt about it. Regarding the other vaccines, you can discuss with your pediatrician and choose whether you want to give or no and whether you can afford it or not.

Question: Should parents give honey to babies below 1 year of age?

Answer: No. Honey contains spores of bacteria called Clostridium botulinum, which can be harmful to the immature digestive system of the baby. Above 1 year of age, these bacteria start growing in the intestines. Then it is safe to give honey.

Question: Some parents are also advised to give ayurvedic kadas to infants, Yes/No?

Answer: No kadas before six months of age.

Question: Mother’s tend to worry about child’s weight, what tips can you give them about growth and development in infants?

Answer: Every child is different. They have different rates of weight gain depending on their metabolism. Some do not gain easily even if they eat properly, whereas others gain weight even with little food. What matters more is their immunity and a balanced intake of proteins, carbohydrates, fats, vitamins, minerals and very importantly, water. A growth chart of the child should be maintained and any fall in the graph should be intervened and the necessary action should be taken.

Question: For new mother’s the first concern is, how do they know baby is getting enough milk? Can you shed some light on what signs to look for in a well-fed baby?

Answer: Proper milk starts flowing by 3rd or 4th day after the baby is born. While feeding the baby, if the mother feels her opposite breast leaking that means she is producing enough milk. If the baby sleeps comfortably between feeds, passes urine atleast 6 to 8 times a day, and is active and gaining weight; all these indicate that the baby is getting enough milk.

Question: How many layers of clothing should a baby wear at home and outside? Should over heating be a concern?

Answer: Layers of clothing depend on which part of the country you are in and the average ambient temperature. A very useful guide is to see how comfortable the mother is at a particular temperature. For example, if you are at home and the AC is on, but set on 27 or 28 degrees and the mother is sweating and uncomfortable; chances are that the baby will be too. So the temperature can be lowered a bit. Similarly, when outside over heating is an issue. It is sometimes mistaken as high fever. Simply removing the excess clothing will bring the baby’s temperature back to normal. And also, if the baby’s hands and legs become too cold, it means the baby is under dressed and you need to add more layers.

Question: Lastly there are many practitioners of baby led weaning now in India. There is an Internet debate on baby led weaning v/s traditional weaning. Questions like do infants get enough nutrition on baby-led weaning crop up from time to time. As a doctor what guidance would you give new moms starting with weaning?

Answer: Your aim should be to give all the nutrients to your child in appropriate quantities. So if the child is eating well, gaining weight and is active and healthy, then whether you practice baby led weaning or traditional weaning; there should be no problem.

I want to thank Dr Arva, for taking time out from her busy schedule and doing this interview with me. I am sure it will help clear any doubts new parents have about baby care practices.

Dr. Arva Bhavnagarwala is a Pediatrician who has done her Masters from a reputed institute in South Mumbai. She currently has her private practice in the same area. She also loves writing in her free time and she is a blogger at momspresso.com You can reach her at drarvabhavnagarwala@gmail.com

Breastfeeding Benefits For Mother And Baby

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At Easy Mommy Life I am striving to bring experts in Parenting, Early Childhood Development, Pediatrics and more. This is my attempt at creating a space where my audience can get a well-researched and evidence based pool of information. Today’s post is by Dr. John D. Rich Jr. on the many breastfeeding benefits. Though breastfeeding may not be an easy ride for some mother’s our intention here is to raise awareness about breastfeeding and its importance. Kindly note this post is for educational purposes.

She picked up my child from out of the crib, slid him into a handmade sling, and gave him the nipple. At first, she had such a hard time learning how to guide him in the right direction, and teach him exactly how to latch on. By now, just a brush of that sweet-smelling breast across his cheek would activate his rooting reflex, and he would immediately begin feeding.

At times, I remember, in full gaga mode as a new father, feeling a fullness at the sight. My wife and child would often lock eyes, and I could see that at that moment, nothing else existed except the two of them. The way my wife would softly sing to him, make soothing noises, and talk to him about how much she was in love sparked some long-buried wish for that kind of deep connection. Every so often, my son, in the middle of his attachment bliss, would just breathe out deeply. I could almost smell the contentment.

The benefits of breastfeeding your baby are so numerous, I feel compelled to discuss them on this site as one of the best things you can do when you start out on the journey of parenting.

In an article in the highly-regarded journal Pediatrics, the authors say that “Human milk is species-specific, and all substitute feeding preparations differ markedly from it, making human milk uniquely superior for infant feeding.” Breastmilk contains antibacterial properties that are powerful precisely because of the symbiotic relationship your baby and you have had for the past 9 or so months. No other method of feeding your baby contains such an exact mix of exactly what your baby needs to be healthy than the special product your body is constantly making just for him! It’s a custom meal plan better than any other.

In a recent brochure, created by James Allen and Debra Hector, for Public Health Policy in Australia, the benefits of breastfeeding your baby include lower rates of infectious disease, upper and lower respiratory tract infections, gastrointestinal illnesses – and all of these outcomes occur “during the infant period and beyond!”

In addition, the benefits of breastfeeding your baby include probably protection against asthma, allergies, some childhood leukemias, UTI, inflammatory bowel disease, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS), obesity and higher levels of cognitive ability.

These outcomes are just for the baby. Another set of amazing benefits of breastfeeding your baby are just for you, the mother. Women who breastfeed have lower levels of postpartum bleeding, a decreased risk of breast and ovarian cancer, and an earlier return to pre-pregnancy weight.

The story at the beginning of this article points to one last reason to breastfeed your baby. An article entitled, Breastfeeding, Bonding, and the Mother-Infant Relationship, discusses the bond between mothers and infants that is created as a result of breastfeeding. Dr. Elizabeth Miller, on her blog Richmondmom, says that, when asked, mothers often say that breastfeeding is “an enjoyable and emotionally beneficial experience.”

As a psychologist, I can imagine that the set-aside of time and the pure focus of attention that can take place during breastfeeding sessions would improve and build upon the bond that is so important for a child’s self-regard and powerful sense of agency as she matures.

One special note: Some women find breastfeeding extremely painful in the early days, and this experience, devoid of the guidance of a trained nursing specialist or health care worker, can lead to them giving up. Also, a few women will give a formula bottle as a top-feed to breastmilk, unaware that this can cause their milk supply to reduce, which then becomes a reason for them to quit. If you are in a situation where you cannot breastfeed, don’t lose hope. You can still mimic the interpersonal benefits that mothers and babies receive during breastfeeding. While your baby is taking her bottle, hold her, make eye contact, sing, speak to her in a loving voice, set aside everything else and just focus on the act of being close to her while she feeds. In doing so, the bonding experience can still be a special one for both of you.

One mother (the author of Easymommylife) describes the bonding that takes place during breastfeeding like this:

“All my life I have been at the center of my own world. Breastfeeding was my first introduction to motherhood. The moment my son latched on, my life changed. Suddenly I moved from being the center of my world to becoming the background in someone else’s. This completely helpless tiny being, now relied on me for survival. Maternal feelings took over; I felt protective and selfless love. I felt like a mom.

Everyone calls this the “bond” you develop through breastfeeding. As he grows in front of my eyes I cannot believe it has been through my milk.

This bond cannot be explained in words, it feels like a calm and safe place between the two of us. Breastfeeding is our private time, we look into each other’s eyes, and I sing sometimes, he giggles and smiles. It’s our special place of love.”

Hope this article helps new moms understand the many benefits of breastfeeding. I would love to hear from breastfeeding mothers about the bonding experience that breastfeeding created for them. Enjoy Parenting, it won’t last forever!

Dr. John D. Rich Jr. is an educational psychologist, associate professor of Psychology at Delaware State University, a full-time husband and father of two sons. You can hear Dr. John every other Wednesday at 4:30 p.m. on the Matt Connarton Unleashed radio show on WMNH 95.3 FM. Also, check out drjohnrich.com for more info. Got questions? Dr. John will help you navigate. Reach him directly at info@drjohnrich.com

Breastfeeding Essentials Every New Mom Needs

Breastfeeding essentials every new mom needs

Breastfeeding can be a rollercoaster ride. Right from the initial euphoria of baby latching on, to doubt and anxiety about milk supply. For first-time moms breastfeeding can be an overwhelming experience. It can be quite intense and an eventful journey to say the least. But with a balanced mindset and preparation, you can settle into your routine with the baby and succeed at breastfeeding.

This is a minimalist list of breastfeeding essentials you will need. These will help make the journey through breastfeeding a little more comfortable.

Breastfeeding Class

Correct knowledge at the start of breastfeeding is crucial to long-term success. Not many moms think of investing in a breastfeeding class and regret later for not having known certain information when they first started.

An online self-paced breastfeeding class is best suited for this very reason. You can take the class at your own pace and all the information is always available to you even after you complete the class.

This especially helps when breastfeeding throws a curve ball when you least expect. There may not always be time to call a doctor or LC, in such a case you can quickly refer the information sheets from class.

Breastfeeding Pillow

As a new breastfeeding mom you will experience arm and back pain. After going through an exhausting labor experience you will now have a mini human attached to you all the time. It’s not easy. But a breastfeeding pillow offers good support for your arms and back. This is a purchase that you don’t want to skip. I used my pillow until my son grew out of it at about 3 months.

Nipple Butter

You may experience sore nipples due to constant latching, unlatching and inexperience in breastfeeding. A natural nipple butter can be used between feeds. This helps moisturize the sore area and heal any cracks and bruising. I find nipple butters with calendula extracts to be quite helpful for quick healing.

Water Bottle

Breastfeeding makes you super thirsty. It is handy to have a water bottle by your bed side. In fact I place bottles all around the house since I get thirsty quickly and with no warning when breastfeeding! This is one breastfeeding essential you can’t skip.

Nursing Pads

The first few weeks of breastfeeding usually bring with them breast engorgement and leaks. Leaks can happen at times even when you are in an established breastfeeding routine. Nursing pads are a savior especially when you go out with baby. You don’t want your nice clothes to get spoilt.

Breast Pump

Once your milk supply is established a breast pump can give you a much-needed break from constant feeds. Pump milk when the baby sleeps and let a family member take over the next feed. You can use this time for yourself. Get some sleep, catch up on a book or go out with friends. I personally found an electric pump easier to use with better output compared to a manual pump.

Snack

Round the clock breastfeeding can make you ravenously hungry. I found the combination of dates and nuts to be the most filling snack. I even kept some by my bedside for midnight cravings. Other snacks that I found filling [when I could literally eat the entire fridge and didn’t want to pile on those calories] were hard-boiled eggs, peanut butter sandwiches, hearty soups and smoothies. Read my post on easy snacking ideas for breastfeeding moms to know more.

Nursing bra

A good nursing bra is an important essential. Try to look for ones with clickable clasps these are easy to unhook when the baby is in a hurry to feed.

Nursing cover

When traveling with a baby or when out and about a nursing cover is a great option to feed in public. You can even use a big wrap or shawl if you have one. Always pack one in your diaper bag.

These were some of the breastfeeding essentials that all new moms need early on. Which ones do you swear by?

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Top 10 Tips For Breastfeeding Success

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When I found out I am pregnant, I rushed out to buy my own copy of “What to expect when you are expecting?” After reading the entire book I was still left with many questions & doubts regarding pregnancy, labor and motherhood. The only topic I took for granted was breastfeeding.

“Isn’t breastfeeding natural, why should I worry about it?” I thought my body would just figure it out. It is quite common for pregnant women to take breastfeeding lightly. We assume it is what all women do without any trouble. This is because we as women don’t talk about breastfeeding with other new moms. We push this very important topic to the side and let shopping for baby and building a nursery, preparations for labor etc. take precedence in our conversations with new mothers.

I started out with a goal to breastfeed my baby for 6 months, but here I am at 14 months and still going strong. A lot has changed since day 1 of Little A’s life, there is a lot I wish I knew when I started my breastfeeding journey. But that is the intention of this blog post. As new moms, we all want to know what exactly we can do to have that successful breastfeeding journey. And hopefully, my top tips will help on your breastfeeding journey with your baby.

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Build your success team

You need your husband, mother, and mother-in-law whoever is in it with you in terms of the baby care to be on board the breastfeeding train. Breast milk takes time to establish so keep feeding the baby as many times as he/she demands. Then there are growth spurts too with dips in milk supply. During these crucial times you want your support system to be on board and not pressure you to give in and give the formula bottle. Sit everyone down and make your breastfeeding goals clear. Ask them to help out with home chores, baby care and cooking so that you can focus on feeding baby with no other stressors.

Proper latch

Make sure to have a proper latch established. If it hurt’s every time you feed most probably the latch isn’t correct. Most hospitals have a nurse come in and help latch the baby on the first time. My hospital also sent in a lactation consultant and she guided me through different positions, how a good latch looks etc.

A good latch is when you start with baby’s nose to your nipple so that they can open their mouth wide and your nipple can touch the roof of the baby’s mouth. The lower part of breast and areola should be covered by baby’s mouth this ensures proper sucking action. I have linked below a series of videos that cover the topic of proper latch and positions for breastfeeding. These are great resources for new moms like you.

Lactation Expert

As I mentioned in the point above if there are any nagging doubts in your mind or pain during feeds or just to ensure you are doing it all correctly, get in touch with a Lactation Consultant. Not only will they guide you on getting the latch right but also demonstrate different positions to hold the baby in while feeding, how to burp the baby etc. I found my session with the LC in the hospital very informative and comforting that I am on the right track.

Another way to learn all about breastfeeding is through an online self-paced breastfeeding class. Sometimes we have limited time with our LC’s or find that breastfeeding brings with it unannounced challenges at odd hours of the day. Investing in an online lactation class helps you with all the correct information you need at your fingertips.

Rest and relax [create a nursing corner]

The initial weeks go by in such a daze. You are still exhausted from the labor and now you are feeding your baby round the clock every 2-3 hours. Just use these initial weeks to relax and bond with your baby. Don’t stress too much about cleaning up the house, or baby care. Buy all baby items before the delivery or if you are still lacking key essentials get your husband to run errands.

Create a small Nursing Corner next to your bed or baby’s crib where you can sit comfortably, add a lot of pillows, a water bottle, nipple cream, snacks (e.g. dry fruits and dates), a table clock and a notebook (or app) to track the feed duration and time, a good book to read. I started enjoying my nursing sessions once this little area was created for me. I didn’t have to worry about anything as everything was already by my side.

Stay hydrated

Breastmilk is more than 80% water and nursing frequently makes one thirsty. Drink lots of water. Incorporate soups, smoothies, juices in your diet, the more nutrient packed the better. These are a great addition to a nursing mother’s diet.

Eat nourishing foods

Eating nourishing and healthy foods helps you recuperate faster and build your depleted resources once again. Have your mom, family and friends send you fresh home cooked meals those initial weeks. In time when you gain your strength back, invest a few hours on weekends and make weekly preparations or batch cook meals for your family. Look for one pot meal ideas. Learn to snack healthy. There are many healthy snack ideas you can choose from.

Also, I know a lot of us slack on taking our vitamins but as long as you are nursing take all your supplements daily. Focus on your health and body as you need to not only nourish your body but your baby too.

Nipple butter

In case you develop cracked nipples, it is best to apply natural nipple butter between feeds and wipe with a warm washcloth before feeding. I would highly recommend Earth Mama Angel Baby Nipple Butter or Motherlove Nipple Cream.

Breastfeeding Pillow

The first problem I encountered as a new nursing mom was exhaustion and arm pain with all the nursing round the clock. Then on a friend’s recommendation, my husband went to a local store and bought me a nursing pillow. I was skeptical at first and thought “How can this help me, I am doing the same thing here with regular pillows”. But it did!  My breastfeeding pillow was my best friend for the first three months of baby’s life. I used it at every feed. It gave good arm and back support. It is so much more comfortable to feed using the breastfeeding pillow. I would highly recommend getting a nursing pillow or boppy pillow, whichever you like. You need it, trust me if you want to breastfeed comfortably get one.

Don’t start pumping immediately

I avoided pumping until 6 weeks because I didn’t want Little A to have nipple confusion. Also in the initial days milk comes in mere drops, which could end up scaring you about quantity. Remember infants have tiny stomachs and as long as your baby is sleeping well after feeds and producing at least 6 wet diapers a day along with steady weight gain, don’t stress about quantity of milk. It’s best you first establish your breastfeeding relationship with your baby and get comfortable with breastfeeding before introducing the pump. That said once you have an established milk supply it’s a wonderful break for tired moms to keep some milk aside for baby and let another family member feed the baby.

It gets better

No matter what difficulty you are going through right now with breastfeeding it will get better. Keep persisting. You will develop your own relationship with your child and soon both will be pro’s at it. Even if you manage to breastfeed your infant for just one day and for whatever reason you were not successful still pat yourself on the back. There is no need for guilt.

Further reading:  Breastfeeding Essentials For New Moms

Great videos that helped me:

Good latch

Attaching baby to breast

Positions for breastfeeding

How to express breast milk

You can also find support online on Facebook through a group called “Breastfeeding Support For Indian Mothers”.

“Mothers and babies form an inseparable biological and social unit; the health and nutrition of one group cannot be divorced from the health and nutrition of the other.” – World Health Organization

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