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How Dads Can Help With Breastfeeding

Ophira1 CommentOctober 3, 2021June 20, 2019

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Your baby is here, congratulations! Hey, new dad, how are you feeling right now? With all the time baby is spending breastfeeding are you feeling left out in the bonding experience? Are you wondering how dads can help with breastfeeding?

I know there is very little talk about helping new dads welcome and bond with baby. It is just as challenging for new fathers as it is for mothers. Yet most of the talk and discussion revolves around the new mother and helping her adjust to her new body, baby and routine.

While it is important to educate mothers about breastfeeding and benefits of breastfeeding, sometimes breastfeeding makes dads feel left out, wondering where they fit in this new equation.

Related reading: Tips on breastfeeding a newborn

I remember my husband felt the same emotions as I did on the arrival of our son, yet he got very little advice and support as a new father. Our modern societies make parenting look like an “all mom” game. We lose our men when we make it all about the mother. The fathers are craving quality time with their little ones and want to bond just as much as the mother with the new baby. But with breastfeeding taking up chunks of time away from the father, followed by other factors like the fathers very early return back to the workforce (thanks to nonexistent paternity leave policies globally) most fathers feel disconnected with their new babies or left wanting more time around their new babies.

If you feel a fathers presence doesn’t really matter that much in the early months, you are wrong.

A study found that babies whose fathers were more engaged and active when playing with them in their initial months performed better in cognitive tests at two years of age.

The clear message for new fathers here is to get in and play with your baby. Playing and interacting with a baby has a positive effect on him.

It is possible to carve out time with your new baby and also help the breastfeeding mom, here is how you can do this.

How dads can help with breastfeeding

Even if the mother is playing a primary role in the newborn stage, dads can still support mothers, bond with the new baby and help set the ground rules for the new family.

Skin-skin

It all starts the moment the baby is handed to you. Skin to skin not only helps breastfeeding mothers connect with the baby it can also help new dads bond with their babies.

Regular skin to skin time with dad is good for mommy (she gets much-needed rest in between feeds) and good for the baby. Skin to skin calms the baby, maintains body temperature, regulates heartbeat and breathing. The fathers feel happier too. Oxytoxin a feel-good hormone in our bodies is released on skin to skin helping the father’s body relax and feel happier.

Give baby a massage

Another great way to bond with the baby is to give the baby a massage. You can talk with the baby as you massage or put on calming music in the background.

Comforting baby, holding and rocking

Dads can always lend a hand in holding baby, rocking the baby to sleep or comforting baby.

In the early days my husband bonded so well with our son, he had his own little routine to help soothe the baby and put him back to sleep. The more time you spend with your baby, the more easily you both find calm in the presence of each other.

So don’t feel shy or let any feelings of inadequacies take away from your time with your child. Hold your baby, look into his eyes and soon you will find your own space. These are special moments between father and child.

Give baby a bath

Most mothers experience some problems with bending or standing for long periods of time post delivery. New dads can support the new mom by learning how to give the baby a bath. Most hospitals will guide new parents on how to give the baby a bath. Start at the hospital itself so that you get tips from the nurses and proper guidance on how to give the baby a bath.

Swaddling

Most hospitals also show you how to properly swaddle a baby. Both parents can also take a class on baby care that covers bath, massage, and swaddling.

Play with baby

Sing songs to your baby, have a conversation with baby and he will respond with coos. Read books to baby and show him around the house.

Change diapers

Diaper change time is also a great opportunity to talk with your baby. You can sing to him during a diaper change, do eye tracking exercises and see how he responds to the sound of a rattle.

Use a baby carrier and take the baby on walks

Take the baby out for walks in the fresh air. A baby wrap can help you carry baby safely in an ergonomic position. Here is a video on how to wrap a newborn correctly in a baby wrap and my favorite baby carriers.

Anmol baby wrap

How to help a breastfeeding mama and make her life a little less stressful

Help with home chores

Cooking, meal prepping, grocery shopping, cleaning, make mama some snacks and warm drinks. There are so many ways in which you can make things comfortable for the new mom. Breastfeeding is really exhausting and time-consuming. Help your wife stay stress-free by taking over home chores for a while until she finds her rhythm with the new baby.

Make sure mama stays hydrated

Breastfeeding moms need to drink a lot of fluid in order to be making more milk. Make nourishing smoothies and warm soups for the breastfeeding mother. Keep her bedside water bottle refilled at all times. These simple gestures of love make her day that much brighter.

Bottle feed pumped milk

Even if you are not formula feeding, dads can still be part of feeding the baby. Pump milk for night feeds and take over the night feeding sessions so that mom can sleep. Or give the mom a chance to go out with friends while you feed the baby pumped milk.

My husband really enjoyed feeding our son pumped milk. At a time when you are still getting to know your baby, it feels like the nourisher gets the most bonding time. So when he got a chance to feed the baby he would always take it. It was beautiful watching both of them together enjoying a connected moment during the feed. I highly recommend fathers feed the baby with a bottle.

Support your partners breastfeeding efforts

Breastfeeding also brings with it many challenges for the new mom. We face everything from feelings of inadequacies to constant judgment for our choices.

Take up a breastfeeding class with your partner to help troubleshoot any early teething problems. These days there are online breastfeeding classes that help new parents through the early days of breastfeeding and provide evidence-based answers to your breastfeeding problems.

As a partner, try and understand your partner’s choices, empathize and support her through the process whatever her choices may be.

That is all she needs from you as she navigates through the initial months of motherhood.

Stand up against difficult family members

There will be times when you need to stand up against unsolicited advice too. New parents are bombarded with a lot of advice and many of them conflicting.

It is best to discuss parenting choices with your partner and have united front around family members with differing ideas and suggestions.

As simple as most of these points sound, many new parents still struggle with these basics and this adds to stress on the new mother which is also one of the reasons why milk supply is affected.

Related reading: How to increase milk supply naturally

Once both parents are on the same page and you can work towards finding solutions to your parenting challenges. The more the father is around as a support system to the mother the easier the transition for both into new parenthood. You are in this together as one team.

This is truly a blessed time in your life, embrace and seize it as your own.

Welcome to Fatherhood! Happy Parenting!

How To Breastfeed Distracted Baby – Tips And Tricks

Ophira23 CommentsJuly 3, 2018November 30, 2017

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How to breastfeed distracted baby? I remember searching this query when my son was around 4 month old. He had become very aware of his surroundings and breastfeeding sessions were becoming challenging. While it is a good sign that your baby is becoming more aware of surroundings and interested in absorbing everything they can, it does make the breastfeeding mother’s life a little difficult.

I have already written about the best tips to help you succeed at breastfeeding and help you achieve your breasfeeding goals. But distracted baby at the breast is one such hiccup on the way that can demotivate you from continuing with breastfeeding. These are phases in your child’s development that are challenging to say the least.

You think the session is over so you stop, then baby cries in 5 minutes for more. This cycle keeps repeating. Or if you decide to give them time at the breast, baby keeps unlatching to look around not focussing on the feeding session. Making every session very long drawn.

Distractions happen even at later stages like 8-9 months of baby’s age and you may mistake it for baby self weaning. But this is not the case. In fact in my own case my son was very aware of his envirnoment from very early on and I could never have successful sessions out and about or in noisy envirnoments. He would want to keep looking at everything around him.

So how do you tackle this type of feeding behaviour. As a mother you begin to worry if they are even getting enough milk in to provide proper nutrition. The following steps helped me immensely with my son and getting him to focus on the feeding session at hand and not get distracted. I hope these work for you and your distractible baby.

Tips to breastfeed distracted baby

To breastfeed distracted baby choose a quiet spot of the house. Draw the curtains and make the room dark. This helps baby focus on breastfeeding. Turn away from any light source like bulbs, lamps in such a way that baby can’t see them.
Try breastfeeding at times like early mornings or closer to times when baby is drowsy. This is called dream feeding. Early mornings are great times to have longer feeding sessions.
When travelling outside with baby during this phase try and find a quieter spot (being outside stimulates baby and may affect your feeding session). I looked for feeding rooms in malls or breastfed in our car before taking him outside. Basically find any spot that is quiet.
If baby is unlatching from the breast many times during one session wear a beaded teething necklace or scarf around your neck. This keeps them engaged in the session, while they fiddle with your accessory.
Use a nursing cover. When all else fails, use a cover as a way to cut out all distractions.
Feeding baby in a lying down position side by side is also a great way to get them to focus on feeding.
Wait until baby is hungry. This was a trick that worked for me. During phases of distractible feeding wait it out until baby is really hungry. Chances are when they are really hungry they will focus on feeding first rather than looking around.

Most of all be patient. Like everything else in motherhood, distracted baby at the breast is also a phase and teaches us more patience and creativity in parenting.

Do let me know which tricks worked for you during this phase of breastfeeding distracted baby?

12 Frequently Asked Questions By New Parents In India

Ophira46 CommentsFebruary 8, 2019September 25, 2017

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frequently asked questions - new parents

New parents face many challenges from the moment the baby arrives. Indian parents in particular, face a peculiar situation whether to follow traditional or modern science based baby caring techniques. This can leave them confused as to which practices to follow and which can be best avoided.

At Easy Mommy Life I’m focussed on bringing unbiased, evidence-based information to new parents. I am therefore trying to bring experts who can provide mothers with information which they seek. Today I bring one such expert Dr. Arva M. Bhavnagarwala. Dr. Arva is a pediatrician and has agreed to do this interview with me. Our discussion revolves around queries every new mother has when she first brings her baby home from the hospital. Initial days of an infant’s life are the most crucial. A calm and self assured mother can make a huge impact in this period.

Let’s get started with the interview.

Question: Massage is great for bonding with babies, are the traditional malishwaali’s needed? Should parents be encouraged to massage baby on their own instead?

Answer: It depends on how comfortable you are with massaging and then bathing the baby. Usually younger babies upto 3 months of age do not hold their necks properly. So it can be difficult bathing them. Traditional maalishwalis are trained to do massage and bathe the newborn. So, until the parents get a hang of it, traditional malishwaali’s may be needed. For the massage, use any oil of your choice. No other substance like besan or anything else (dhoop) should be used. The massage should be with firm yet gentle strokes to relax baby.

Question: Some Indian families practice applying kajal to baby’s eyes. Can you explain to our readers why parents should refrain from applying kajal to baby’s eyes?

Answer: The kajal available in the market contain different types of chemicals, which can be harmful for the eyes. So, if you want to put kajal on the baby’s body for whatever reason, you can apply it anywhere you want except the eyes!

Question: What constitutes “sleeping through the night”? What can be done to promote good sleep in infants?

Answer: Sleeping through the night means sleeping at a stretch for 6-8 hours. This is difficult to achieve in babies younger than six months as they are still breastfeeding and get startled easily. In infants above six months, you can establish a routine for their sleeping depending on the situation at your home. Keeping a fixed time, a pre-sleep ritual like massaging or bathing can help. Keeping the room dim and quiet is also important. Make sure they do not sleep hungry. At the same time remember, each baby is different. Some may sleep through the night easily, some may not. Patience is the key. Do not give up!

Question: What should new parents look for when choosing baby care products?

Answer: They should be hypoallergenic, fragrance free or a mild fragrance, organic if possible and pH of 4.5 to 5. Before using any new product liberally, do a patch test. That is, apply a little product on a small patch of skin and observe for any adverse reaction for 24 to 48 hours. This is especially useful if there’s a family history of allergies.

Question: What is colic and how to prevent it?

Answer: Colic is continuous bouts of crying at a predictable time and usually occurs in babies upto 6-8 months of age. What exactly causes colic is not known. There is no specific way to prevent colic as such. Some babies do not get it at all, while some are extremely colicky. In breastfeeding mothers, if they make some changes in their diet, it can reduce the episodes to some extent. Like avoiding gas causing foods, and caffeine.

Question: Many new parents are confused about vaccinations. With controversy created by media and a divide in parenting groups on pro-vaccine and anti-vaccine, what do you have to say to Indian parents about vaccinations?

Answer: The vaccinations that are compulsory and recommended by the Government of India have to be given. There’s no doubt about it. Regarding the other vaccines, you can discuss with your pediatrician and choose whether you want to give or no and whether you can afford it or not.

Question: Should parents give honey to babies below 1 year of age?

Answer: No. Honey contains spores of bacteria called Clostridium botulinum, which can be harmful to the immature digestive system of the baby. Above 1 year of age, these bacteria start growing in the intestines. Then it is safe to give honey.

Question: Some parents are also advised to give ayurvedic kadas to infants, Yes/No?

Answer: No kadas before six months of age.

Question: Mother’s tend to worry about child’s weight, what tips can you give them about growth and development in infants?

Answer: Every child is different. They have different rates of weight gain depending on their metabolism. Some do not gain easily even if they eat properly, whereas others gain weight even with little food. What matters more is their immunity and a balanced intake of proteins, carbohydrates, fats, vitamins, minerals and very importantly, water. A growth chart of the child should be maintained and any fall in the graph should be intervened and the necessary action should be taken.

Question: For new mother’s the first concern is, how do they know baby is getting enough milk? Can you shed some light on what signs to look for in a well-fed baby?

Answer: Proper milk starts flowing by 3^rd or 4^th day after the baby is born. While feeding the baby, if the mother feels her opposite breast leaking that means she is producing enough milk. If the baby sleeps comfortably between feeds, passes urine atleast 6 to 8 times a day, and is active and gaining weight; all these indicate that the baby is getting enough milk.

Question: How many layers of clothing should a baby wear at home and outside? Should over heating be a concern?

Answer: Layers of clothing depend on which part of the country you are in and the average ambient temperature. A very useful guide is to see how comfortable the mother is at a particular temperature. For example, if you are at home and the AC is on, but set on 27 or 28 degrees and the mother is sweating and uncomfortable; chances are that the baby will be too. So the temperature can be lowered a bit. Similarly, when outside over heating is an issue. It is sometimes mistaken as high fever. Simply removing the excess clothing will bring the baby’s temperature back to normal. And also, if the baby’s hands and legs become too cold, it means the baby is under dressed and you need to add more layers.

Question: Lastly there are many practitioners of baby led weaning now in India. There is an Internet debate on baby led weaning v/s traditional weaning. Questions like do infants get enough nutrition on baby-led weaning crop up from time to time. As a doctor what guidance would you give new moms starting with weaning?

Answer: Your aim should be to give all the nutrients to your child in appropriate quantities. So if the child is eating well, gaining weight and is active and healthy, then whether you practice baby led weaning or traditional weaning; there should be no problem.

I want to thank Dr Arva, for taking time out from her busy schedule and doing this interview with me. I am sure it will help clear any doubts new parents have about baby care practices.

Dr. Arva Bhavnagarwala is a Pediatrician who has done her Masters from a reputed institute in South Mumbai. She currently has her private practice in the same area. She also loves writing in her free time and she is a blogger at momspresso.com You can reach her at drarvabhavnagarwala@gmail.com

Breastfeeding Benefits For Mother And Baby

Ophira18 CommentsJuly 3, 2018August 30, 2017

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At Easy Mommy Life I am striving to bring experts in Parenting, Early Childhood Development, Pediatrics and more. This is my attempt at creating a space where my audience can get a well-researched and evidence based pool of information. Today’s post is by Dr. John D. Rich Jr. on the many breastfeeding benefits. Though breastfeeding may not be an easy ride for some mother’s our intention here is to raise awareness about breastfeeding and its importance. Kindly note this post is for educational purposes.

She picked up my child from out of the crib, slid him into a handmade sling, and gave him the nipple. At first, she had such a hard time learning how to guide him in the right direction, and teach him exactly how to latch on. By now, just a brush of that sweet-smelling breast across his cheek would activate his rooting reflex, and he would immediately begin feeding.

At times, I remember, in full gaga mode as a new father, feeling a fullness at the sight. My wife and child would often lock eyes, and I could see that at that moment, nothing else existed except the two of them. The way my wife would softly sing to him, make soothing noises, and talk to him about how much she was in love sparked some long-buried wish for that kind of deep connection. Every so often, my son, in the middle of his attachment bliss, would just breathe out deeply. I could almost smell the contentment.

The benefits of breastfeeding your baby are so numerous, I feel compelled to discuss them on this site as one of the best things you can do when you start out on the journey of parenting.

In an article in the highly-regarded journal Pediatrics, the authors say that “Human milk is species-specific, and all substitute feeding preparations differ markedly from it, making human milk uniquely superior for infant feeding.” Breastmilk contains antibacterial properties that are powerful precisely because of the symbiotic relationship your baby and you have had for the past 9 or so months. No other method of feeding your baby contains such an exact mix of exactly what your baby needs to be healthy than the special product your body is constantly making just for him! It’s a custom meal plan better than any other.

In a recent brochure, created by James Allen and Debra Hector, for Public Health Policy in Australia, the benefits of breastfeeding your baby include lower rates of infectious disease, upper and lower respiratory tract infections, gastrointestinal illnesses – and all of these outcomes occur “during the infant period and beyond!”

In addition, the benefits of breastfeeding your baby include probably protection against asthma, allergies, some childhood leukemias, UTI, inflammatory bowel disease, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS), obesity and higher levels of cognitive ability.

These outcomes are just for the baby. Another set of amazing benefits of breastfeeding your baby are just for you, the mother. Women who breastfeed have lower levels of postpartum bleeding, a decreased risk of breast and ovarian cancer, and an earlier return to pre-pregnancy weight.

The story at the beginning of this article points to one last reason to breastfeed your baby. An article entitled, Breastfeeding, Bonding, and the Mother-Infant Relationship, discusses the bond between mothers and infants that is created as a result of breastfeeding. Dr. Elizabeth Miller, on her blog Richmondmom, says that, when asked, mothers often say that breastfeeding is “an enjoyable and emotionally beneficial experience.”

As a psychologist, I can imagine that the set-aside of time and the pure focus of attention that can take place during breastfeeding sessions would improve and build upon the bond that is so important for a child’s self-regard and powerful sense of agency as she matures.

One special note: Some women find breastfeeding extremely painful in the early days, and this experience, devoid of the guidance of a trained nursing specialist or health care worker, can lead to them giving up. Also, a few women will give a formula bottle as a top-feed to breastmilk, unaware that this can cause their milk supply to reduce, which then becomes a reason for them to quit. If you are in a situation where you cannot breastfeed, don’t lose hope. You can still mimic the interpersonal benefits that mothers and babies receive during breastfeeding. While your baby is taking her bottle, hold her, make eye contact, sing, speak to her in a loving voice, set aside everything else and just focus on the act of being close to her while she feeds. In doing so, the bonding experience can still be a special one for both of you.

One mother (the author of Easymommylife) describes the bonding that takes place during breastfeeding like this:

“All my life I have been at the center of my own world. Breastfeeding was my first introduction to motherhood. The moment my son latched on, my life changed. Suddenly I moved from being the center of my world to becoming the background in someone else’s. This completely helpless tiny being, now relied on me for survival. Maternal feelings took over; I felt protective and selfless love. I felt like a mom.

Everyone calls this the “bond” you develop through breastfeeding. As he grows in front of my eyes I cannot believe it has been through my milk.

This bond cannot be explained in words, it feels like a calm and safe place between the two of us. Breastfeeding is our private time, we look into each other’s eyes, and I sing sometimes, he giggles and smiles. It’s our special place of love.”

Hope this article helps new moms understand the many benefits of breastfeeding. I would love to hear from breastfeeding mothers about the bonding experience that breastfeeding created for them. Enjoy Parenting, it won’t last forever!

Dr. John D. Rich Jr. is an educational psychologist, associate professor of Psychology at Delaware State University, a full-time husband and father of two sons. You can hear Dr. John every other Wednesday at 4:30 p.m. on the Matt Connarton Unleashed radio show on WMNH 95.3 FM. Also, check out drjohnrich.com for more info. Got questions? Dr. John will help you navigate. Reach him directly at info@drjohnrich.com